If you are married, how many times you had made a promise (or an agreement) with your significant other and had simply forgot.
You are not ignoring the commitment, honestly you have no recollection you made it. Even if I remind you, you remember it differently.
It’s all fine, except that are those little things what deteriorate relationships at the end of the day, she remembers one way, you said it was in another. You remember one thing, she said it wasn’t like that.
The solution is simple, write it down. You can’t make the other write it down and remember it how it was, but at least you can do your part. Write in detail the agreement and the promise. You will be able to come back to that list and remind yourself, not only the agreement, but the reason you did it. Think on this like writing a note to your future self, that will have no clue about this day.
i.e. Years ago, my wife got offered a job ninety seven miles away from our current home. We talk, and decided that it was going to be a good thing for her to take the job. As part of that agreement I was going to drive over one hundred and ninety miles each day. It’s easy to say, exhausting to drive. The only reason I did it for more than two years, was the note that remind me Why I decided to do that. I drove more than one hundred thousand miles, and every time I got tired of frustrated, I open the list, read the agreement, and the why: “You are doing this, because one of my goals in life is making my wife happy.” and so I drove that morning or that afternoon.
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